Retirement Blog


To inspire, inform, and embolden people thinking about retiring or already retired.

THOUGHT-PROVOKING COLUMNS THAT FOCUS ON EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL WELL-BEING IN RETIREMENT:

  • Tales of retirement – This is the heart of our blog!  Tales of retirement written by friends, family, and colleagues who have already retired
  • Following Frank into retirement – Frank’s thoughts each step of the way, from 5 months prior to retiring through to four years after retiring
  • Thoughts from a retirement coach – What Mariella has learned from her clients and her life
  • Retirement stats, studies, and stuff – Just what it says
  • Helen, heading out – A series of articles about recreating identity after an all-consuming career
  • Tales of an overachieving retiree – A series of articles about the challenges of bringing overachievement into retirement and finding pleasure in the process
  • Craving a dog’s life – A series of articles about finding a pathway towards a simpler life, one that is less focused on structure and more on love, compassion, daily walks, and treats
  • Phil dives into retirement – A series of articles about transitioning from a very structured professional life
  • Reinventing Barb – A series of articles about reinventing life after job loss
  • My journey – A series of articles about being given working notice shortly before retirement

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Tales of Retirement

Written by friends, family, and colleagues who have already retired

# Posted Title Author What’s It About
1.2014/07/18Of lists and blank pagesRose MorleyDisorientation, flow, routine
2.2014/08/14Where there are toasted tomato sandwiches, there is hopeBrad MorleyFulfillment, life transitions, mixed emotions, satisfaction
3.2014/09/14When work ended abruptly, I was catapulted into serious soul searchingMartinChronic illness in retirement, disorientation, fulfillment, health, job loss, mixed emotions, unexpected retirement
4.2014/10/15Retirement. How did I ever find time to work!Peter FollettEngagement, life transitions, mixed emotions, satisfaction
5.2014/11/14One widow’s retirement storyJudy CallahanDeath, chronic illness, resilience
6.2014/12/15Retire like a drunken matadorChristine WarltierEarly retirement, frustrated with work, happiness, money
7.2015/01/14Then a miracle occurredJim A. DixonPurpose and passion in retirement, relationships, money, resilience
8.2015/02/15In search of the meaning of life (still)Rose MorleyCreativity, fulfillment, life transitions, mixed emotions, routine
9.2015/03/14The healing tea of retirementBrad MorleyBurnout, happiness, life transitions, stress
10.2015/04/14Freedom sixty-onePauline HodgeDisorientation, happiness, life transitions, mixed emotions, money
11.2015/05/14An examination of my fear of spidersFiona McConachieEngagement, fulfillment, healthy aging, life transitions, resilience
12.2015/06/14Retirement: out with a whimper, not a bangDon KellettFulfillment, life transitions, planning, unexpected retirement
13.2015/07/15A snowbird experienceAmy CousineauFulfillment, life transitions, relationships, satisfaction
14.2015/09/01I’m fine. Really.Anson LaytnerDisorientation, engagement, life transitions, money, routine
15.2015/09/14What monkeys do and do not doBrad MorleyDisorientation, healthy aging, retirement income, work-life balance
16.2015/10/16Comfort zone be damnedRose MorleyCreativity, engagement, fulfillment, mixed emotions
17.2015/11/24Practising retirement, and my cover storyMarkCreativity, fulfillment, mixed emotions
18.2015/12/14Household hazards in retirementAnson LaytnerHappiness, health, routine
19.2016/01/14Choosing not to be sadJudy CallahanHappiness, mixed emotions, relationships in retirement
20.2016/02/15Snowbirds – not this winter!Amy CousineauHealth, mixed emotions, resilience
21.2016/03/14When bad things happen to good dreams or “now what?”Rose MorleyDisorientation, flow, mixed emotions, resilience
22.2016/04/14Retirement: the 3 Rs – renew, refresh, rejuvenateDonna BeattyDisorientation, happiness, life transitions, routine
23.2016/05/22Sometimes the harder you go at a thing, the more it recedesHazel LyderCreativity, disorientation, life transitions, mixed emotions
24.2016/06/14Retirement: out with a whimper, not a bangJean MurphyBurnout, early retirement, happiness, identity
25.2016/07/15Oh, the places you’ll go! …with a nod to Dr. SeussDonna McCawChronic illness, courage, life transitions
26.2016/08/24Grief’s apprenticeLinda SchnabelDeath, happiness, resilience
27.2016/09/10Practising retirement – coming at it sidewaysMarkCreativity, tapering/practising retirement, taking a sabbatical year
28.2016/10/21By the time she retires, I’ll be ready for the long napAnson LaytnerRetiring well before younger partner, fighting to feel relevant
29.2016/11/21An abundance of timeAnn MunschUnderstanding busy-ness; lessons learned; letting go
30.2016/12/08La petite mortAnson LaytnerDealing with lost value when visiting workplace after retirement
31.2017/01/15Back to babyhoodRuth MorrisPhysically ready for retirement; enjoying grandchild
32.2017/02/14Retirement – I’m ready!Maryse LafreniereActivities planned; identity as a helper will be maintained
33.2017/03/14Ready, set, terminatedShirley FortonUnexpected job loss; devastation; resilience; downsizing; family
34.2017/04/24Retirement four years inPauline HodgeBreaking from regiment; freedom; fitness; dementia; adjustment
35.2017/04/15My last day of work… everJosette VigneuxLast day as a nurse of 30 years
36.2017/06/26Thirty-nine years of retirementClaude Lafreniere91-year-old’s experiences over 39 years of retirement
37.2017/08/05Practising retirement: practice is now overMarkFacing ever-since-I-was-a-kid dreams; retirement trepidation; the need for aspirations and discipline
38.2017/11/21Time flies when you’re having funJanis TomkinsonMissing daily structure and colleagues, redesigning me
39.2018/01/19You don’t need a weatherman to know which way the wind blowsJoan HobanRN retires after 45 years, making choices, dreaming, self-determination
40.2018/02/26I hate rushing in the morning!Maryse LafreniereHuman connection, volunteering, playing, fear of disability
41.2018/03/27Selling a house is a little like making love for the first timePat O’ConnorDownsizing to a smaller house, being vulnerable

Thoughts from a Retirement Coach

What Mariella has learned from her clients and her life

# Posted Title Author What’s It About
1.2014/02/07Creating purpose and passion in retirement:  just mushy words?MariellaEngagement, fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction, strengths
2.2014/08/29If only we had instructions for retirementMariellaDisorientation, engagement, fulfillment, happiness, mixed emotions, strengths
3.2014/09/29Pre-retirement emotions: a boiling cauldronMariellaDisorientation, life transitions, mixed emotions, strengths
4.2014/10/28Liver and onion WednesdaysMariellaFulfillment, life transitions, routine, satisfaction
5.2014/11/27Leisure in retirement – too much of a good thing?MariellaDisorientation, engagement, happiness, life transitions
6.2014/12/29Beautiful endeavoursMariellaFrustrated with work, fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction
7.2015/01/28Adjusting to a new limitation – what works?MariellaChronic illness, engagement, mixed emotions, physical fitness
8.2015/02/28Flirting with your wild sideMariellaHealth, healthy aging, life transitions, resilience
9.2015/04/28What makes (or breaks) relationships in retirement?MariellaLife transitions, mixed emotions, relationships in retirement
10.2015/06/28Leaving behind a life legacy that goes beyond egoMariellaFulfillment, life legacy
11.2015/09/22Life is so startlingMariellaHappiness, healthy aging, resilience
12.2015/12/01I’d rather die in the traces than retireMariellaDisorientation, fulfillment, life transitions
13.2015/12/28Retirement – a time for small thingsMariellaEngagement, money, satisfaction
14.2016/02/22How well are you doing in retirement?  Part one – taking your pulse.MariellaFlow, fulfillment, mixed emotions, relationships in retirement, resilience, routine
15.2016/03/19How well are you doing in retirement?  Part two – strengthening your pulse.MariellaFlow, identity, life legacy, relationships in retirement, routine
16.2016/04/21A rousing harangue for foundering retireesMariellaDisorientation, resilience, stress
17.2016/05/31Retirement: where the future of the universe depends on you (ha!)MariellaDisorientation, engagement, identity
18.2016/06/26What to put on a bucket listMariellaDeath, fulfillment, life legacy, relationships in retirement
19.2016/07/30When one person retires and their partner does notMariellaDisorientation, life transitions, relationships in retirement
20.2016/08/27Navigating our newsletter articles (Part 1 – by column, topic, and author)MariellaLife transitions
21.2016/09/30Navigating our newsletter articles (Part 2 – by topic)MariellaList of articles by topic
22.2016/10/29A confessionMariellaAdjusting to a partner’s upcoming retirement while still working
23.2016/11/27Dealing with the wild cardsMariellaOsteoporosis, dealing with a diagnosis and its limitations
24.2017/02/27Retirement: What can we learn from the oldest person in the world?MariellaLessons from a 122-year-old on owning identity, self-esteem, purpose, contributing to the world, being positive, resilience, balance of leisure and structure
25.2017/03/31In praise of wattles and wrinklesMariellaClaiming our power, even as our physical form diminishes
26.2017/04/24Legitimized: Finally I can say, “I’m retired.”MariellaBeing outside the normal careers; relief of ‘retired’ label; redefining retirement and work
27.2017/05/07Inertia in RetirementMariellaInertia; self-determination; not striving; creativity; dreams
28.2017/06/27Who do you SAY you are?MariellaSelf-identity; being accurate; finding connection; being who we want to be; focusing on hopes instead of troubles
29.2017/12/11The graveyard in my mindMariellaHow one death causes us to relive the anguish of previous losses; bringing what we lost into future life; becoming soft
30.2018/06/25Still don’t know what you want to be when you grow up? 16 questions to help figure it out.MariellaRetirement gives us a rare opportunity to really figure out what we want out of life. 16 questions to help clarify.

Stats, Studies, and Stuff (Including Guest Authors)

Just what it says

# Posted Title Author What’s It About
1.2014/07/18Did you know that a startling percentage of people retire unexpectedly or reluctantly?MariellaEarly retirement, health, job loss, unexpected retirement
2.2014/08/25Exercise – the silver bullet for successful aging?MariellaHealth, healthy aging, physical fitness in retirement
3.2014/09/22Are you getting enough of the five elements needed for a satisfying life?MariellaEngagement, flow, fulfillment, happiness, healthy aging, satisfaction
4.2014/10/22Who do you think you are?MariellaFulfillment, life transitions, satisfaction, strengths
5.2014/11/22What lures us to creativity?MariellaCreativity, engagement, fulfillment, satisfaction
6.2014/12/26Retirement and mortalityMariellaChronic illness, early retirement, health, healthy aging, unexpected retirement
7.2015/01/21Retiree stereotypes – It seems we’re feeble, forgetful, stubborn, and helplessMariellaHealthy aging, life transitions, mixed emotions
8.2015/02/23Flow – the overlooked ingredient in the recipe for happiness (Part 1)MariellaEngagement, flow, fulfillment, happiness
9.2015/03/24Flow – the overlooked ingredient in the recipe for happiness  (Part 2)MariellaEngagement, flow, fulfillment, routine
10.2015/05/28In support of doubtMariellaDisorientation, fulfillment, life transitions, mixed emotions
11.2015/07/29Our relationship to money in retirementMariellaEarly retirement, fulfillment, money
12.2015/08/31Unlearning the puritan work ethic in retirementMariellaHealthy aging, life transitions, mixed emotions, work-life balance
13.2015/10/01Contentment:  what does it look like?Bret MaukonenFulfillment, happiness
14.2015/10/25Aging: I haven’t been reading the scriptMariellaHealthy aging, life transitions, physical fitness in retirement
15.2015/11/08Happiness at the speed of lightCatherine M. MillerHappiness, health, resilience
16.2016/01/01Positive thinking is not all it’s cracked up to be when it comes to retirement planningMariellaLife transitions, mixed emotions
17.2016/01/18How employers can help with employee retirement decisionsMariellaFrustrated with work, succession planning
18.2016/02/09Walk sober off; before a sprightlier age comes tittering onMariellaFulfillment, healthy aging, life transitions, resilience
19.2016/03/19Should I get a dog when I retire?MariellaHappiness, health, mixed emotions, physical fitness in retirement
20.2016/04/28Downsizing your home – by crisis or by choice?Ellen CrymbleHealth, life transitions, planning
21.2016/05/16Never too old to learnJill WatsonContinuing education, healthy aging, life transitions, Third Age learning
22.2016/06/27Ponderings about retirement from a residential hospice chaplainKathy UnderwoodDeath, happiness, life legacy, relationships in retirement
23.2016/08/06Who am I now? Identity revisited… renewed… reinventedLynne MaukonenIdentity, purpose and passion in retirement
24.2016/09/10Whose life (and death) is it, anyway?Kathy UnderwoodAutonomy of someone is dying, listening to a dying person’s wishes
25.2016/10/24Co-housing with friends into old ageMariellaBuilding community through shared living spaces
26.2016/11/23The motivations behind volunteering in retirementLuc CousineauContributing something back; reasons for volunteering
27.2016/12/08The struggle to become (reasonably) selfish in retirementMariellaProtecting our personal creative space as retirees
28.2017/02/25Your thoughts on retirement: four questions for youMariellaBest moment, retirement challenges, relationship changes, money perspective
29.2017/03/27Survey responses to question 1 – most joy in retirement so far?MariellaJoy in retirement: freedom, control, learning, sleeping in, travel, relationships
30.2017/04/19Survey responses to question 2 – what do you wish you had known?MariellaChallenges/hindsight: balancing routine and freedom; regrets; less income; being uncomfortable wayfinding; allowing non-productivity; adjusting to unreal expectations; reframing satisfaction
31.2017/05/07Survey responses to question 3 – how did retirement affect your relationship with your partner?MariellaRelationship changes: loss of partner; needing separate space and activities; same people; less stress; health challenges
32.2017/06/27Survey responses to question 4 – has your perspective on money changed since retiring?MariellaMoney perspective: caring for parents in retirement; worries; frugal living; adjusting expectations; no change
33.2018/06/20How well do people adjust to retirement? (Three adjustment patterns)MariellaHow we adjust depends on life variables; can shorten disorientation phase by building on positive variables and neutralizing negative ones

Following Frank

Frank’s thoughts each step of the way, from 5 months prior to retiring through to four years after retiring

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2014/07/07Frank in a nutshellFrankFrustrated with work, happiness, life transitions, planning, retirement income/money, satisfaction
2.2014/08/12Hanging up the skates – flip flopping towards retirementFrankFrustrated with work, life transitions, mixed emotions, planning, retirement income/money
3.2014/09/07Money, money, money – being responsibleFrankFulfillment, happiness, planning, retirement income, satisfaction
4.2014/10/07So much time and so little to doFrankHappiness, life transitions, mixed emotions, satisfaction
5.2014/11/07Money, money, money repriseFrankHappiness, life transitions, mixed emotions, money, planning
6.2014/12/07The luxury of beingFrankEngagement, fulfillment, life transitions, mixed emotions
7.2015/01/06A very long weekendFrankDisorientation, frustrated with work, mixed emotions, routine, satisfaction
8.2015/02/06The storm before the calmFrankDisorientation, fulfillment, mixed emotions
9.2015/03/07Time for a changeFrankLife transitions, planning, routine
10.2015/04/07Something’s cookingFrankLife transitions, money, routine, satisfaction
11.2015/05/07Mind gamesFrankFlow, money, retirement income, routine
12.2015/06/07The most precious giftFrankFulfillment, legacy, life transitions
13.2015/07/30Finding a balanceFrankFulfillment, physical fitness in retirement, work-life balance
14.2015/10/06Opportunistic tumbleweedFrankMixed emotions, routine, satisfaction
15.2016/01/06Tempus fugitFrankHappiness, mixed emotions, routine
16.2017/01/23Just call me ‘bob’FrankSumming up 2 years of retirement;
17.2018/09/17That’s a good pace, now keep it up for another 30 years…FrankPurpose; will I feel regretful that I haven’t used those 30 years well?

Helen, Heading Out

A series of articles about recreating identity after an all-consuming career

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2015/02/06My almost (involuntary) early retirementHelenBurnout, early retirement, health, stress, unexpected retirement
2.2015/03/07Staving off involuntary early retirement: the emotional sideHelenBurnout, early retirement, health, work-life balance
3.2015/04/21Staving off involuntary early retirement: the work sideHelenBurnout, early retirement, frustrated at work, health, resilience, work-life balance
4.2015/05/21The pushmi-pullu of my retirement decisionHelenFulfillment, identity, life transitions, money, unexpected retirement
5.2015/06/22Clearing out my office – and my lifeHelenDisorientation, identity, job loss, life transitions
6.2015/07/21Am I really retired?HelenLife transitions, routine, work-life balance
7.2015/08/26Three-year retirement retrospectiveHelenCreativity, engagement, identity, life transitions
8.2015/10/21What do I miss?HelenIdentity, life transitions, mixed emotions
9.2015/11/18New keys on my key ringHelenCreativity, mixed emotions, relationships in retirement
10.2015/12/23The end of the bendHelenHealthy aging, identity, life transitions
11.2016/01/18Navigating the end of the bendHelenChronic illness in retirement, death, healthy aging, routine

Tales of an Overachieving Retiree

A series of articles about the challenges of bringing overachievement into retirement and finding pleasure in the process

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2016/02/08Getting off track: getting to retirement after retirementPeterLife transitions, work-life balance
2.2016/03/19Getting back to the dreamsPeterCreativity, life transitions, work-life balance
3.2016/04/14Getting to a full stopPeterBurnout, creativity, work-life balance
4.2016/05/19Getting to the point, stillPeterCreativity, routine, work-life balance
5.2016/06/28Getting to a simpler placePeterLife transitions, stress, work-life balance

Craving a Dog’s Life

A series of articles about finding a pathway towards a simpler life, one that is less focused on structure and more on love, compassion, daily walks, and treats

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2016/07/12Why is it so hard to turn down work after retiring?RenateLife transitions, mixed emotions, work-life balance
2.2016/08/22When you’re not the boss anymoreRenateIdentity, life transitions, satisfaction
3.2016/09/29To work or not to work?RenateFinding the right balance of contract work when retired

Phil Dives into Retirement 

A series of articles about transitioning from a very structured professional life

# Posted Title Author What’s It About
1.2016/12/12Will my identity retire with me?Phil McCavityQuestioning ability to turn off work identity when retired
2.2017/01/07Easing my way out the doorPhil McCavityGoodbyes to clients; readiness to retire
3.2017/02/07And so it happenedPhil McCavitySale of business, meet-and-greet, clearing deck, planning
4.2017/03/07Great expectationsPhil McCavityExpectations of good health, happiness, choices
5.2017/08/20Game onPhil McCavityChores, golf, getting fit, rural living, life is good

Reinventing Barb

A series of articles about reinventing life after job loss

# Posted Title Author What’s It About
1.2017/04/09Terminated – my career handed to me in a boxBarb CarriereSudden job loss; loss of identity; grieving; giving back; downsizing; part-time work; letting others in; designing each day
2.2017/05/07‘Rightsizing’ to a new homeBarb CarriereDownsizing; healing; finding a passion;
3.2017/06/26Creating a happy lifeBarb CarriereFulfilling postponed dreams; finding meaning and joy; being kind

My Journey

A series of articles about being given working notice shortly before retirement

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2017/08/21The storm (part 1)MCWorking notice layoff after working 28 years, anger, fear, work or retire?
2.2017/11/14The wreckage (part 2)MCWorking notice layoff, mourning, isolation, panic, layoff package, no medical coverage, acceptance
3.2018/03/09The calm seas (part 3)MCReconciling to job termination, volunteering, trust in self, creating a peaceful harbour

Other

# Posted TitleAuthor What’s It About
1.2013/11/15Welcome to the Retiring With Purpose and Passion blogMariellaDisorientation, life transitions, planning
2.2015/08/30Gems from year oneMariellaEarly retirement, happiness, identity, life transitions, mixed emotions
3.2015/09/1710 delights of retirementMariellaHappiness, routine, satisfaction
4.2016/07/25Gems from year twoMariellaDisorientation, engagement, happiness, money in retirement, routine
5.2016/10/21Announcing the first annual Doggerel Cup Limerick ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
6.2016/11/25Last chance to enter the annual Doggerel Cup Limerick ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
7.2017/01/01Announcing the winner of the annual Doggerel Cup Limerick ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
8.2017/01/26Limerick contest winner receives trophyMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
9.2017/06/28Newsletter UpdateMariellaCelebrating 3 years; quarterly issues; share your experiences
10.2017/08/10The second annual Doggerel Cup ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
11.2017/08/13Gems from year threeMariellaFavourite tidbits of wisdom, humour, and experience
12.2017/12/11Last chance to enter the annual Doggerel Cup ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
13.2018/03/29Announcing the winner of the second annual Doggerel Cup ContestMariellaFrivolous limericks about retirement
14.2018/06/27Quick comebacks to working stiffs when they say, “Retired, eh? What do you do all day?”MariellaRequest for responses to the question “What do you do all day?”
15.2018/06/27Newsletter updateMariellaNext issue is last; celebrating 4 years; tell your story
16.2018/09/25Suggested responses for when working stiffs say, “Retired, eh? So, what do you do all day?”MariellaSuggested responses to the question “What do you do all day?”
17.2018/09/25Gems from year fourMariellaFavourite tidbits of wisdom, humour, and experience
18.2018/09/25This is the last newsletter!MariellaLast newsletter; book coming; thank you